Choose the Quest of Your Hero’s Journey

Choose the Quest of Your Hero’s Journey

There’s a reason the universal narrative of the Hero’s Journey has persisted throughout thousands of years of human storytelling. It’s compelling not just because of familiarity, but because we can identify with it. We identify with protagonists facing great odds and difficulties because human life has always been defined by strife and struggle. So if we all identify with the monomyth in one way or another, why not embrace it? Hero Without a Cause The feeling of meandering through life permeates through much of society. We fall into routines, boredom and…

Five Ways to Catalyze Focus and Maximize Productivity

Five Ways to Catalyze Focus and Maximize Productivity

Tell me if this sounds familiar: You sit down at your computer, ready to put a dent in some project, open up the tools or programs you need to use and…little gets accomplished over the course of hours. Sometimes, procrastination isn’t the enemy, lack of actual productivity when attempting to work is. Time will fly by, but most of it will not be spent doing actual work. The bogeyman in this situation is focus, or more aptly, lack thereof. It’s not surprising that tasks can be difficult to concentrate on in…

Hating Others for Our Insecurities: How to Pull the Facebook Bugs from Your Ears

Hating Others for Our Insecurities: How to Pull the Facebook Bugs from Your Ears

Tell me if you’ve experienced this: Someone on your Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, or whatever other social media just plain annoys you and you’re not sure why. They may not be posting excessive politics, spamming you with game requests, or blaring flat earth conspiracies, but something about them gets under your skin. They’ve never done a thing malicious to you, and yet you just dislike them. Congratulations, you have a Facebook bug in your ear. Facebook Flies You may be asking, “A bug in my ear? That metaphor makes less sense than your invisible gorilla.”…

The Art of Loving Women: An Interview with Zan Perrion

The Art of Loving Women: An Interview with Zan Perrion

True love and romance seem to be a lost art in our modern age, and modern Casanova Zan Perrion has dedicated his life to changing that. I reviewed his book The Alabaster Girl, and this week I had a chance to sit down with him and discuss living what men get wrong with dating, living one’s truth, and how nerdy men can live out their passions while still being attractive to women. Apologies to Doctor Nerdlove, I know this is normally his territory. Like what you heard? Follow Zan on…

Shoutout: The Alabaster Girl, by Zan Perrion

Shoutout: The Alabaster Girl, by Zan Perrion

Sit back and relax… I will sing you the song of women. What women? you ask. All women, I answer. Even me? you ask. Especially you, I answer. And what will you sing to me? you ask. Ah, my love, I will sing to you of hidden truths Yes, hidden truths and secret secrets… —Zan Perrion, The Alabaster Girl Every once in a while, you come across a book that metaphorically smacks you over the head, a book that wakes you up like a bucket of ice water being thrown on…

Inattentional Blindness: Spot the Invisible Gorilla in Your Life

Inattentional Blindness: Spot the Invisible Gorilla in Your Life

Tell me if this sounds familiar: A task or situation consumes your thoughts. It could be a boss fight you just can’t beat or a number on the scale that just won’t budge. Perhaps it’s a bad situation in your life, whether money’s tight, your significant other dumped you, or all of the Nintendo Switch preorders sold out before you could get one. Whether the situation is dire or just inconvenient, you may just be suffering from a case of obsession-induced tunnel vision, and failing to notice an invisible gorilla in your life….

False Attribution: Most People Don’t Care About You (And That’s Great)

False Attribution: Most People Don’t Care About You (And That’s Great)

“Oh no, that person over there noticed I’m getting a little pudgy.” “These people looking at my Facebook see that I’m not posting pictures with a significant other, they must think I’m lame because I’m single!” “My friends saw me order a cheaper drink at the bar, they probably think I’m a broke loser.” “I wasn’t invited to that party, everyone in the group must hate me.” Ever say statements like those to yourself? You’ve probably thought at least one of them, or something similar. In this social media-driven modern…

Doctor Strange: Four Ways to Conjure a New Door When Another Closes

Doctor Strange: Four Ways to Conjure a New Door When Another Closes

Man, Doctor Strange was just magical, wasn’t it? The fans and critics agree. I’d give you my own review, but pieces of my brain are still floating around in an alternate dimension. It simultaneously accomplishes molding a mystical world to fit the aesthetic of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, adds a whole new dimension to said universe (literally), and manages to be a damn entertaining adventure to boot. Since I’m talking about it here though, there are some motivational lessons to be found in it too. Doctor Stephen Strange, in both the…

The Pain of Rejection is Real. It Won’t Kill You.

The Pain of Rejection is Real. It Won’t Kill You.

Let’s talk about rejection. It should join death and taxes in the inevitability department, because everyone experiences it in one way or another in their lives. Some rejections are negligible (a left swipe on Tinder), some are heartbreaking (being turned down by your crush), some seem like they’ll shatter your soul down to the atomic level (limited theatrical release of Shin Godzilla not coming to your city). Every single one is unique, and they all hurt in some way. I’m just 25 years old, but I’ve faced my fair share of rejection….

Perfection is Unattainable, and That’s Perfect

Perfection is Unattainable, and That’s Perfect

What is perfection? ‘Condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects’ is the basic definition. And yet, society has blown it into an abstract, colossal, and sometimes contradictory concept. It is sought by many, but rarely found. Some people search for the situation, person, or place that lacks defects or drawbacks, yet others find perfection in a collection of flaws (the Zen approach). Some claim perfection is just around the corner, while others insist it does not exist in any form whatsoever. The…