Perfection is Unattainable, and That’s Perfect

Perfection is Unattainable, and That’s Perfect

What is perfection? ‘Condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects’ is the basic definition. And yet, society has blown it into an abstract, colossal, and sometimes contradictory concept. It is sought by many, but rarely found. Some people search for the situation, person, or place that lacks defects or drawbacks, yet others find perfection in a collection of flaws (the Zen approach). Some claim perfection is just around the corner, while others insist it does not exist in any form whatsoever. The…

What do you do when plans go wrong?

What do you do when plans go wrong?

There is one overused quotation I see proven true again and again and again and again throughout life: “The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.” This nugget of wisdom by Robert Burns has been hammered into the ground for a reason: Rarely do things play out the way we wish them to. It’s stressful. It can be as minor as friends canceling for a night out or as major as a derailed engagement or lost job.  If no battle plan survives contact with the enemy, how do we…

Self Care for Men: More Vital Than You’d Think

Self Care for Men: More Vital Than You’d Think

Read any self improvement or mental health book/blog long enough and you’re guaranteed to come across the words ‘self care.’ It typically delivered with nurturing words and sweet acknowledgements of the struggles of life. The ‘self-care’ tag on Tumblr unleashes a cavalcade of calming pastel colors and uplifting platitudes. There are about as many guides to self care floating around the World Wide Web as there are cat pictures. These blogs tend to be very popular with women, but the copious yet constitutive advice is often lost on the other…

Comfort in Relationships, Death of Self Improvement?

Comfort in Relationships, Death of Self Improvement?

Friends, please bow your heads in a moment of silence. We are gathered here today to mourn the loss of many cool, active, and driven friends and acquaintances. They were bright and shining presences in our lives taken from us too soon. Though they may have left the land of the living, the memories they left us with will live on. The cause of death? A comfortable, non-challenging relationship. Disclaimer: This article does not imply a relationship automatically makes someone into a less interesting person. Many people in relationships and…

5 Lessons from Star Trek’s Wisest Captain

5 Lessons from Star Trek’s Wisest Captain

Normally in a keyword chasing blog post about a long-lived franchise getting a new movie, someone would comment on the hype train surrounding the film or why it’s ‘never been better to be an [insert film here] fan!’ I just can’t say that about Star Trek. Ever since Star Trek Enterprise slumped in ratings and into cancellation, the last two decades have not been kind to the franchise. The fandom is alive and well, but it’s not the crackling worldwide phenomenon it used to be. Sure, the Abrams movies kept the franchise…

Pokémon GO: Catch Some Self Improvement

Pokémon GO: Catch Some Self Improvement

Pokémon GO has lit the Internet on fire. In a news week with the FBI declining to recommend indictment for Hilary Clinton and horrific police shootings, a video game involving searching for fictional monsters on cell phones still manages to be a dominant topic. Nintendo’s stock jumped 10% after release. Thousands of statuses and tweets about the game flood the social networks. Incredible stories are already popping up, like a player that found a dead body while playing. Pokémon GO meetups worldwide are in the making. In a year or…

A Journaling Template for Relief and Self Awareness (Updated)

A Journaling Template for Relief and Self Awareness (Updated)

As the old cliche goes, know thyself. Self awareness ranks among the most important skills for reaching your full potential in life. It helps guide decisions, provide insight into personal conflicts, and clarifying our own thoughts. Living a life without self awareness is like a playthrough of Skyrim without a HUD or stat menus. You can try to fight dragons and participate in the Nordic Space Program without ever checking strengths and weaknesses in your build, but the experience becomes so much richer when you explore the intricacies of the system. Explore…

Is Tolerance a Paradox?

Is Tolerance a Paradox?

Last week week, I published a post that, among other things, advocated for a broad spectrum of tolerance based on the Wiccan Rede: Let people do their own thing, without criticism or condemnation, so long as what they’re doing doesn’t bring harm or distress to others. As you might guess if you have read other posts here or followed the blog’s Facebook page, I lean liberal. I try to minimize bringing politics into this operation, but I’m not afraid to make a statement either. Writing that post, plus following the comments…

Shoutout: Chalene Johnson’s PiYo

Shoutout: Chalene Johnson’s PiYo

It’s no secret that I am a fitness junkie. After being the pudgy kid for sixteen years, I took up running on the treadmill my sophomore year of high school and exercise has been a consistent part of my life ever since. Hell, my parents even first met at a gym, so you could say I was destined for it. Fitness is one of my core drivers in my journey down the Way of the Spiral. Because of my work schedule and the fact I lost free access to a…

Wiccan Rede: Do Your Own Thing, Without Judgment

Wiccan Rede: Do Your Own Thing, Without Judgment

New Age Religion, or alternative spiritual practices, or “not Judeo-Christian,” is all the rage these days, particularly European pagan traditions and Wicca. Eastern religious traditions are getting plenty of love as well, including meditation. While there are many lifetime practitioners who were never swayed by hot trends into the tradition, the number of Americans who claim beliefs that can be considered New Age has grown exponentially in recent years. Just float over to your local bookstore, you’ll find books about applying Buddhist mindfulness practices to Google’s business model as well as using…