Choose the Quest of Your Hero’s Journey

Choose the Quest of Your Hero’s Journey

There’s a reason the universal narrative of the Hero’s Journey has persisted throughout thousands of years of human storytelling. It’s compelling not just because of familiarity, but because we can identify with it. We identify with protagonists facing great odds and difficulties because human life has always been defined by strife and struggle. So if we all identify with the monomyth in one way or another, why not embrace it? Hero Without a Cause The feeling of meandering through life permeates through much of society. We fall into routines, boredom and…

Hating Others for Our Insecurities: How to Pull the Facebook Bugs from Your Ears

Hating Others for Our Insecurities: How to Pull the Facebook Bugs from Your Ears

Tell me if you’ve experienced this: Someone on your Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, or whatever other social media just plain annoys you and you’re not sure why. They may not be posting excessive politics, spamming you with game requests, or blaring flat earth conspiracies, but something about them gets under your skin. They’ve never done a thing malicious to you, and yet you just dislike them. Congratulations, you have a Facebook bug in your ear. Facebook Flies You may be asking, “A bug in my ear? That metaphor makes less sense than your invisible gorilla.”…

Inattentional Blindness: Spot the Invisible Gorilla in Your Life

Inattentional Blindness: Spot the Invisible Gorilla in Your Life

Tell me if this sounds familiar: A task or situation consumes your thoughts. It could be a boss fight you just can’t beat or a number on the scale that just won’t budge. Perhaps it’s a bad situation in your life, whether money’s tight, your significant other dumped you, or all of the Nintendo Switch preorders sold out before you could get one. Whether the situation is dire or just inconvenient, you may just be suffering from a case of obsession-induced tunnel vision, and failing to notice an invisible gorilla in your life….

False Attribution: Most People Don’t Care About You (And That’s Great)

False Attribution: Most People Don’t Care About You (And That’s Great)

“Oh no, that person over there noticed I’m getting a little pudgy.” “These people looking at my Facebook see that I’m not posting pictures with a significant other, they must think I’m lame because I’m single!” “My friends saw me order a cheaper drink at the bar, they probably think I’m a broke loser.” “I wasn’t invited to that party, everyone in the group must hate me.” Ever say statements like those to yourself? You’ve probably thought at least one of them, or something similar. In this social media-driven modern…

The Pain of Rejection is Real. It Won’t Kill You.

The Pain of Rejection is Real. It Won’t Kill You.

Let’s talk about rejection. It should join death and taxes in the inevitability department, because everyone experiences it in one way or another in their lives. Some rejections are negligible (a left swipe on Tinder), some are heartbreaking (being turned down by your crush), some seem like they’ll shatter your soul down to the atomic level (limited theatrical release of Shin Godzilla not coming to your city). Every single one is unique, and they all hurt in some way. I’m just 25 years old, but I’ve faced my fair share of rejection….

Perfection is Unattainable, and That’s Perfect

Perfection is Unattainable, and That’s Perfect

What is perfection? ‘Condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects’ is the basic definition. And yet, society has blown it into an abstract, colossal, and sometimes contradictory concept. It is sought by many, but rarely found. Some people search for the situation, person, or place that lacks defects or drawbacks, yet others find perfection in a collection of flaws (the Zen approach). Some claim perfection is just around the corner, while others insist it does not exist in any form whatsoever. The…

What do you do when plans go wrong?

What do you do when plans go wrong?

There is one overused quotation I see proven true again and again and again and again throughout life: “The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.” This nugget of wisdom by Robert Burns has been hammered into the ground for a reason: Rarely do things play out the way we wish them to. It’s stressful. It can be as minor as friends canceling for a night out or as major as a derailed engagement or lost job.  If no battle plan survives contact with the enemy, how do we…

Self Care for Men: More Vital Than You’d Think

Self Care for Men: More Vital Than You’d Think

Read any self improvement or mental health book/blog long enough and you’re guaranteed to come across the words ‘self care.’ It typically delivered with nurturing words and sweet acknowledgements of the struggles of life. The ‘self-care’ tag on Tumblr unleashes a cavalcade of calming pastel colors and uplifting platitudes. There are about as many guides to self care floating around the World Wide Web as there are cat pictures. These blogs tend to be very popular with women, but the copious yet constitutive advice is often lost on the other…

Comfort in Relationships, Death of Self Improvement?

Comfort in Relationships, Death of Self Improvement?

Friends, please bow your heads in a moment of silence. We are gathered here today to mourn the loss of many cool, active, and driven friends and acquaintances. They were bright and shining presences in our lives taken from us too soon. Though they may have left the land of the living, the memories they left us with will live on. The cause of death? A comfortable, non-challenging relationship. Disclaimer: This article does not imply a relationship automatically makes someone into a less interesting person. Many people in relationships and…

Pokémon GO: Catch Some Self Improvement

Pokémon GO: Catch Some Self Improvement

Pokémon GO has lit the Internet on fire. In a news week with the FBI declining to recommend indictment for Hilary Clinton and horrific police shootings, a video game involving searching for fictional monsters on cell phones still manages to be a dominant topic. Nintendo’s stock jumped 10% after release. Thousands of statuses and tweets about the game flood the social networks. Incredible stories are already popping up, like a player that found a dead body while playing. Pokémon GO meetups worldwide are in the making. In a year or…